When I learned how to get a girlfriend, a major, distressing issue I had was getting into state.   I knew early on that I’d required a high vibrancy of good energy, and when I was out with my energetic friends, I didn’t have a problem reaching that level of energy. On my own, however, I either had it or I didn’t, and more often than I liked, it just wasn’t there. I blame that for a lot of missed approaches for me . I direly wanted to spark my own positive energy, and although I had a couple ideas myself, it was the Gambler that ultimately pointed me in the correct direction. In this text, I’ll show you how to create energy within yourself - and most of these tools come from Gambler.

Get yourself in a positive state

You know these times of low energy where you are just down, walking slowly, your arms dangling, feet shuffling, heavy head and eyes, you’re in a still, slightly melancholic mood, without much ambition or freshness on your mind. That’s not exactly a great party spirit, is it? I often come from the office in that state, and on the way home, I pass gorgeous women in the streets. I used to wish I was energetic enough to approach them. What was there to do? How to impress a girl you like when you’re not in state?

Prepare at home

First, establish some groundwork to take with you. You want to browse your music collection for the most energetic songs - the ones that get you pumped the best. You know which ones work for you, here are two suggestions from me: Bowling for Soup is a young American band that plays fun, party-style, modern Rock’n'Roll, another one is O.A.R. (Of A Revolution) - they have a funky, very playful mix of rock and reggae. Do check them out. Get an MP3 player and put these songs on it so you can listen to them whenever you want. Also, take a piece of paper and write down a number of affirmative lines - ideas that make you feel great about yourself. You can also record them and put them on your player.

Generate movement

When you’re out later, hanging out and listening to music, you want to build a momentum in your body. Chewing gum will create motion in your body and your juices flowing; it will also spark agility in your brain. Clapp your hands or pat your hands on the sides of your trousers to the rhythm, bounce a bit when you walk, move your body to the beat in your head. Whistle or hum.

Get into a good mood with your body

Those lines you wrote down: remember to re-read. Listen to them or read them to yourself, aloud in case you’re getting into state at home before going out. Gamblerpoints out: “After doing this a number of times, each thing is associated with the others.” Imagine, if you link a body movement with a state (NLP), and they will fuel each other: if you breathe deeply and take in the oxygen, then walk upright with a steady pace and with your head held high, fully extended spine, it will have an effect on your mood. The same principle goes for the following:

Smile

Often, the way your body and face behave will actually trigger the according emotion. You start out by smiling brightly, and your feelings will follow your body and mind’s lead.

With these steps, you can learn how to generate great vibes and energy & then you’ll know how to make a girl like you a lot without even trying. Gambler writes: “When I’m in state, I feel completely confident, able to approach anybody. I feel like the most attractive and powerful person in any situation.” This is the best state you want to reach: as we all know, the means to get there is through experience. Fortunately, you can do this kind at any point during your day! I highly recommend you should go ahead and start on this immediately.